The blog/IG/Twitter/Facebook world is something that I really can’t imagine living without now. I’ve made some amazing friendships, gotten incredible advice, laughed, cried, celebrated, and mourned with friends that I’ve met through this crazy world. But I’ve also found myself comparing my life with others so much more since I’ve become a part of this world.
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in what’s “in” or the “next best thing” and living up to the crazy standards that are out there.
Our daycare provider and I were talking about this during Halloween. She said that she’s so thankful there was no Facebook around when she was in the throes of motherhood. She asked me how in the world I deal with trying to compete with everyone’s great Pinterest-worthy Halloween treats and costumes or this persons elaborate birthday party they threw for their two year old or this persons amazing recipes and constant home cooked meals! She said that she feels sorry for moms these days because it’s all about comparison, because everyone advertises their successes. It really got me thinking. She is so right.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s so awesome to see everyone’s ideas and adorable costumes, parties, outfits, etc. but you are kidding yourself if you think seeing those things doesn’t automatically put you in comparison mode.
We all start thinking about how we could do something similar or how you wished you would have thought of it. Or the mom guilt sets in and you are embarrassed by your idea or treat or whatever you had done. Or you see someone constantly posting about their amazing workout, their super clean food choices, endless Target/Starbucks trips, spotless house, well behaved kids always dressed perfectly and looking at the camera, and you wonder how in the world they get it all done or have the resources to do so when you feel like you are running an endless marathon and your toddler is eating leftovers for the third night in a row?!
This time of year I find myself doing it even more. Everyone starts putting up their holiday decorations and posting about Christmas shopping, etc. It’s so easy to think that I need this or that because I saw it on Instagram and so and so has it so of course I need it too, right? Or I better have the most adorable outfits for the boys for the holidays because people on IG/Facebook are going to see it and surely my kids can’t be seen in an outfit from Walmart! (the horror!) How silly.
When we compare ourselves to others it undermines our ability to be grateful for what God has already given us. In a world where the vast majority of people would give anything to have the things we have, we need to be thankful for the blessings that we DO have whether they are worthy of an Instagram post or not. Don’t let comparison steal YOUR joy.