Becoming a parent for the first time is a scary thing. At the hospital you are waited on hand and foot. They bring you the baby when he is hungry and take him back to the nursery when he’s done eating at night. They change his diaper and help you with anything you need.
Once you leave that glorious place you are ON YOUR OWN.
Now don’t get me wrong, it’s so exciting to be taking your newborn home, but you begin to wonder how the adjustment will be.
I was pretty confident that Robbie and I would rock this whole parenting thing but our first night home Hayden gave us a run for our money.
That first night we didn’t have a plan, we just “went with it.” And Hayden would only sleep for an hour or so at a time and didn’t seem happy in his Pak N Play, Rock N Play, or the floor. He slept in our arms and even that was short lived.
He just didn’t seem happy and I felt so bad. Why hadn’t we asked more questions at the hospital? What did he do when they took him back to the nursery at night? Did they swaddle him? Did he take a pacifier? Was he wide awake? Did he cry?
I contemplated calling the hospital and asking the nursery nurses all these questions and then realized that was silly…this was our child. We could figure it out.
So on the second night we knew we had to get a routine down and after that second night, Hayden has been a great sleeper!
We do bath, swaddle, eat, bed. After a couple nights he just KNEW what was coming and it has worked so great for us. Starting that second night he would wake up one time to eat and immediately go back down for bed. At 4 weeks old Hayden slept through the night and has every night since then.
I am so thankful for a great eater and sleeper. But I am also so proud of Robbie and I for being confident in our parenting and doing what works for us.
We both said how proud we are of ourselves that we have never had to call either of our moms for help. My mom offered to come stay with us the first couple of nights after we got home and I declined, because I just felt confident that we could do it and we DID.
My mom says that babies can tell when you are frustrated or stressed and I really believe that. When you’re calm, the baby is calm.
Everyone says not to be afraid to ask for help and I definitely am not, but I am happy to say we really haven’t needed much.
Maybe it’s because Hayden is just an angel baby (I’m totally biased) but I truly believe in just trusting yourself and being confident in your parenting and everything else will fall into place!
ETA: I am by no means trying to brag about my parenting skills or my perfect baby, I just want all you mama’s to be to know that it is possible to be confident about your parenting and feel like you’ve got it under control! You can do it! 🙂
only a few days old